Early Marriage is not A Good Choice.

Bringing up a family is not a simple thing which could decide in one night. People should prepare everything before getting married. Not only financial, physic, adulthood and knowledge also required for getting married. Some people said getting married in 24 to 26 years old is a good choice, because in these ages people have completed every requirement to be a spouse. People in these ages have a good full-time job, more responsible, wiser, and good in managing financial. However, there are also some people getting married in 16 to 18 years old. In fact, those early married couples are living unhappy, because early marriage has given them many problems. Early marriage is not a best choice for any reasons because it is harmful.

Early marriage is a common in some countries or tribes. People get married when they still 16, 17, or 18 years old. Most of early married couples claim avoids adultery and sins as their reason, some of them said that they were ready to get married because they have a job and thought that they are ready to fulfill their needs by themselves. Culture also one of persuasive reason about early marriage. Adolescents are used to follow what their parent has done before. It is a common in their society to get married early – including their parent, therefore they also get married early. Another reason is parents who surrendered to financial condition decide to arrange a marriage for their children in order to decrease family expenditures. Are those reasons strong enough to get married early? In fact, early marriage snatches their teen-age and changes it with responsibilities of bringing a family up.

Bad emotional link, lack of sense of responsibility, unstable financial condition, and situation of physical which not yet ready might possibly generate new problems after getting married. Many people do not consider about those things. Even if they do, that is not seriously. Hard willingness and pictures about better future have defeated their consideration about disadvantages of early marriage. So that, teenagers and parents are need to know the disadvantages of early marriage to avoid any risks of it.

Adolescents are not yet adult enough to live together as a family, they are easy to be bored, used to be free, and curious. As we know, teenagers are interested to find new things and experiences to avoid sense of bore about daily common activities and habits. They like to joy themselves more than anything else, they even forget their responsibility easily for having fun. This case most happen to the men, they will push their spouse aside and gives more attention to the new things which they have just found. Home is not a comfort place anymore; they will spend much more time outside. As the result, they will be passed over their spouse and do not fulfill their family necessity. The worst possibility is, they will looking for another woman and divorce their spouse. Of course it is very hard to their spouse to go on their life as widow, more than anything else have owned child.

When a couple feel bore each other, their communication will getting worst sooner. This condition will bring them to be selfish; they put their own necessity as first priority, unwilling to start a conversation, and keep doing their bad habits without consider the effects. For example, a young man who used to smoke will not lessen his habit to fulfill necessities of his family if his wife does not ask him with correct words and which he can accept. A wife who used to spend a lot of money for shopping will keep her common if her husband can not talk to her and suggest her to manage financial wiser. It is not easy for teenager to build a good communication, because basically they are selfish, hard to sharing, and thought themselves are the main priority.

In a family, people will face of many problems. Patience is the key from of figure out problems and it is one of most adolescents do not have yet. They are impatience in face of problem, simple problems and also big problems. They easy to be hopeless when, more than anything else their spouse does not help much. When their patience used up, they will be angry easily and moreover looking for someone to be blamed. No one else will be suspected to make them angry and assumed to make mistakes except their own spouse. Unfortunately, that actions do not giving any good result and the problems are still unsolved. Moreover, there will be other problems when both of them getting angry, blaming each other, do not want to give in one another. Two impatience people can not live together, because they can be angry easily, and waste much time to argue each other.

When we talk about a family, we will continue to talk about living together, having babies, and sharing affection. People in 16 to 18 years old might possibly to share affection as husband and wife, but physically they – women – are not ready yet for having a baby. In biological science, is it is true mentioned that women who have experienced of menstruation are ready to pregnant and bear a baby, but it is still very risky to adolescent for that. Many cases found about defect babies who was born from mothers who are still very young. Those cases are because of teens’ womb is not formed perfectly yet, it can not give a good nutrition for the baby. Being pregnant in a very young ages provide high risks. A very young mother also gristle of miscarriage, many babies of teens’ die when borne, even the mother is possibly to be die too. In short, it is not a good idea to let a very young girl to get married, get pregnant, and bare a baby because it is very, very risky.

Even they bared a baby and passed all the risks, there still others possibility that perhaps worse for their baby and themselves. A young mother have no experiences about bring a baby up yet. The baby can be uncared because she does not know yet how to look after a baby well. Their habits before married also influence the baby growth. She not used to wakes up at midnight to change her baby’s wet pants, she do not know how to bathing the baby correctly and the baby might be dislocated or sprained. She perhaps gets panic when her baby is fever and keeps crying, then she can not thinking clearly and at last she do nothing for the baby. Not only that, the baby can be lack of nutrition and growth unstable. The young mother does not know well about her baby need for nutrition, she has no idea about immunization or Children Health Center. As the result, the baby can not grow better.

The most important thing that people should consider is financial. Nowadays, things and goods are very expensive. Meanwhile they need to earn money for food, household equipments, health facilities, clothes, entertainment, etc. Get married mean ready to live and manage your own life with your partner (husband or wife). Early married couple average ages are 16 to 18, which mean they did not finish their high school or at least they are educated until high school only. With high school diploma only, it will be very hard for them to find a good job with good wages. Therefore, they can not earn enough money to fulfill their necessities. In conclusion, they will live with misery, failed to fulfill necessity, and unhappy.

Adolescent also have problem about managing financial. Basically, teens are interested to spend much more money for fun than for other necessity. Most of them hard to decide which things are important and which are not. They are not used to make a list of expenditures, because they are used to get money from their parent and they can ask for more if they run out of money. When they earn they own money (not much of course) that should be enough for a month, they can use them up in two weeks. As the result, they will be in trouble during the rest two weeks. Base on sense of pity, their parent come and give them a hand by assisting their finance. Of course it is not effective to teach tem to be wiser, instead they be accustomed with that aid and lazy to work.

Living in a new family, people also consider about a better future. There are many ways to arrange a brighter future; saving money, invest money to enterprise or company, or start an own business. However, saving money is the most common way that people do to prepare their future. For early married couple with poor salary and unable to manage expenditure, save any money for their future is almost impossible. Meanwhile, their salary is only enough for their daily need. They will have children and that will need money, they need to save their money for their children’s education, health, and also to enlarge their house or to expand their business. If they can not save any money, that mean their life will not much better than today, they can not make any changes. Instead, their life might be worse in the next few years. It is impossible for them to save their money as long as they just make a little money, unable to manage money well, and their expenditure is much more than their income.

Finally, we can conclude that early marriage generate more disadvantages than advantages. It makes teens face many problems in their life, snatches their happy life, and bring them into a hard life. Early marriage also gives nothing to adolescent in their future. It will better for us to consider the bad effects before decide get marry earlier. However, early marriage is not a good choice for teenagers.