December 31, 2009

8 Kelebihan/Manfaat Menjadi Orang Jelek

Saya rasa tidak ada orang yang ingin dilahirkan jadi orang jelek karena semua ingin lahir dengan rupa yang baik dan setelah besar tumbuh dan berkembang menjadi orang yang cakep yaitu kalau laki-laki itu ganteng dan kalau perempuan itu cantik. Tapi apa mau dikata kita tidak bisa memilih dan penampilan merupakan anugerah dari Sang Maha Kuasa.

Sebenarnya orang yang memiliki wajah atau penampilan yang relatif jelek itu tidak selalu membawa berkah karena semua ada hikmah atau keunggulan tertentu yang belum tentu bisa diraih oleh orang yang berpenampilan relatif baik. Diantaranya yaitu :

10 Password Pasaran di Dunia Maya

Pentingnya kata kunci di dunia maya, seringkali dikesampingkan oleh sebagian pemilik email, dan situs jejaring sosial. Password yang dibuat hanyalah asal-asalan, akibatnya banyak yang menjadi korban pembobolan.

Beberapa waktu lalu, Microsoft mengungkapkan bahwa sekira 10 ribu password akun hotmail milik beberapa pengguna telah disebar secara sengaja oleh kriminal cyber.

Layanan email milik Microsoft itu berhasil dibobol oleh scammer dan secara sengaja dipublikasikan di sebuah situs internet.

Untuk mengantisipasi hal itu, ada baiknya Anda membuat password yang jarang digunakan oleh kebanyakan pengguna.
Sebab itu, Ahli keamanan Bogdan Calin dari Acunetix mencoba mengungkapkan sejumlah password yang dianggap pasaran dan mudah dibobol. Demikian dilansir Times Of India, Senin (12/10/2009).

Berbagai Situs Manipulasi Foto Online

ngin foto-foto diri anda ada di cover majalah dunia atau cover cd Paris hilton, atau baju yang sedang dipakai oleh artis terkenal, dunia, ada di mobilnya Mr.Bean atau billboard, gelas, dan efek-efek lainnya ?

Saat ini banyak sekali situs-situs manipulasi foto yang dapat digunakan. Tidak perlu keahlian khusus sebagai desain grafis atau apalah istilahnya , anda hanya butuh menyiapkan foto diri dan kunjungi situs penyedia foto manipulasi tersebut, upload foto anda, klik oke dan selesai..dan hasilnya luar biasa untuk ber-narsis ria..

XP Lawan Vista

Windows XP masih memiliki pengguna setia. Vista pun terus berusaha menarik perhatian pengguna PC. Kini CHIP adu keduanya dalam sebuah pertarungan seru.

Windows XP memang sudah di akhir hayat. Penggantinya adalah Vista. Namun, masih banyak pengguna XP yang belum (tidak mau) beralih ke Vista. Bahkan, Microsoft belum lama ini malah mengeluarkan sebuah update lengkap untuk XP. Alasan klasik Microsoft adalah ingin memberi kesempatan kepada perusahaan-perusahaan untuk terus menggunakan XP. Mengapa XP masih banyak peminatnya? Mengapa juga banyak pengguna PC yang tidak mau menggunakan Vista?

Cara Meng-hack Tubuh Manusia

1. Jika tenggorokanmu gatal, garuk telingamu
“Jika saraf dekat telinga distimulasi, bisa menciptakan reflek di tenggorokan yang mampu menghasilkan kejang otot ” kata Scott Schaffer, M.D., presiden dari pusat spesialis THT di Gibbsboro, New Jersey. “Kejang ini bisa menghilangkan rasa gatal.”

2. Rasakan pendengaran supersonik
Jika anda terjebak di tengah ramainya orang ngobrol di pesta, condongkan tubuh dengan telinga kanan ke depan. Telinga kanan lebih baik daripda telinga kiri dalam hal mengikuti ritme obrolan yang cepat, menurut peneliti dari UCLA David Geffen School of Medicine. Sebaliknya, jika and aingin mengidentifikasi lagu yang dimainin dengan lembut di elevator, gunakan bagian kiri telinga, ini lebih baik dalam memilah nada musik.

3. Hilangkan rasa sakit
Peneliti Jerman telah menemukan bahwa batuk saat disuntik bisa mengurangi rasa sakit dari jarum suntik. Menurut Taras Usichenko, pengarang ‘mempelajari fenomena’, trik ini menyebabkan kejutan, kenaikan sementara tekanan di dada dan kanal spinal, menahan struktur pengatur rasa sakit di pusat tulang belakang.

Ilmuwan Ungkap Misteri Mayat-Mayat Tersenyum

Selama ribuan tahun para ilmuwan masih diselimuti misteri soal bagaimana mayat-mayat kuno di Kepulauan Sardinia rata-rata dalam kondisi wajah tersenyum.

Sebagaimana diberitakan National Geographic, Kamis (4/6) kini setelah 2.800 tahun berlalu, mereka berhasil mengungkap bahwa ada bahan tanaman yang mampu membuat orang bisa tersenyum menjelang ajalnya. Tanaman ini diduga dapat membuat tampilan wajah si mayat seperti tersenyum.

Sebelumnya, penulis abad ke-8 SM Homer pernah menyebutkan istilah kata “Senyuman Sardonik” yang diambil dari akar kata “Sardinia” dalam sejumlah tulisannya merujuk pembunuhan ritual di pulau itu yang berakhir dengan wajah tersenyum.

Pendidikan Nasional Telah Kehilangan Roh

Pendidikan nasional telah kehilangan roh karena ditinggalkannya fungsi character and nation building dan hanya mengejar perkembangan intelektualitas saja.

Mantan KASAD Jenderal TNI (Purn) Tyasno Sudarto mengatakan hal itu pada orasi Dies Natalis XXIX UNiversitas Slamet Riyadi Surakarta (Unisri) di Kampus Kadipiro, Solo, Sabtu.

"Anak didik sekarang dicetak menjadi robot-robot pintar, atau pekerja-pekerja intelektual bahkan kuli-kuli produktif saja. Perkembangan bakat dan kepribadian serta budi pekertinya dikesampingkan," kata Tyasno.

Daftar Istilah-Istilah Korupsi di Indonesia


Menurut Masyarakat Transparansi Indonesia [MTI], hepeng pago-pago, silua, dan manulangi termasuk dalam kategori istilah atau kegiatan bersifat korupsi. Selain Batak, MTI juga punya daftar istilah korupsi dari daerah Bandung, Padang, dan Makassar. Daftar istilah berikut dikutip Blog Berita dari situs MTI. Istilah-istilah umum dalam kegiatan korupsi.

Menjaga Kebersihan Makanan


Berita soal orang keracunan makanan seolah menjadi hal biasa. Padahal keracunan makaan bisa berakibat fatal bagi tubuh. Keamanan dan kebersihan makanan sangat akrab dalam lingkungan rumah. Karena dari rumahlah makanan diproduksi. Dengan langkah-langkah sederhana berikut ini hal tersebut bisa dicegah.

Sajikan Makanan Panas dalam Keadaan Panas:
Jika makanan yang Anda masak akan segera dimakan, sajikan segera dalam keadaan panas. Namun, jika tak akan segera dimakan, taruh dalam wadah bertutup dan simpan dalam lemari makan. Jangan membiarkan makanan pada suhu hangat, suhu ruangan lebih dari 2 jam. Karena pada suhu tersebut bakteri akan berkembang biak dengan cepat dan menimbulkan penyakit.

Sajikan Makanan Dingin dalam Keadaan Dingin:
Makanan seperti daging asap, susu, keju, aneka krim yang harus disajikan dingin, sajikan segera setelah diambil dari kulkas. Makanan yang harus ada pada suhu 15oC tetap harus pada suhu tersebut. Jika tidak, maka bekteri akan tumbuh subur!

10 Manfaat Seks Untuk Pria dan Wanita


Banyak yang belum memahami, jika seks emmiliki banyak manfaat yang harus dilakukan. Hasil beberapa penelitian yang dilakukan, seks memiliki banyak manfaat tidak hanya untuk kepuasan, melainkan juga untuk kesehatan dan mengurangi berat badan. Berikut beberapa manfaat seks yang dirangkum dari berbagai penelitian seperti yang dilansir dari WebMD

Perbedaan Antara Making Love dan Having Sex

Anda semua pasti sudah akrab atau mengenal yang namanya having sex dan making love. Having sex dan Making Love(ML) adalah suatu peristiwa sex yang sama, NAMUN berbeda KONTEKS nya. Anak2 muda jaman sekarang, khususnya di Indonesia sering sekali menggunakan istilah ML dalam menjelaskan suatu hubungan intim dengan pasangan, baik bukan pacaran, pacaran, atau menikah.

Apakah keduanya sama? TIDAK!

Makanan Pembangkit Libido

Berhubungan seks tak hanya mengandalkan apa yang Anda lakukan di tempat tidur, pasti Anda membutuhkan power saat 'bertempur' bukan? Agar hubungan seks Anda lebih lama dan lebih 'greng' coba deh mulai membiasakan diri mengkonsumsi makanan untuk pembangkit libido. Berikut ini 11 makanan yang esensinya DIYAKINI (bukan berarti pasti) bisa menaikkan gairah seskual:

1. Seledri
Seledri, sayuran yang kerap kita jumpai sebagai pelengkap hidangan, merupakan sumber makanan yang bisa meningkatkan rangsang seksual karena seledri mengandung senyawa androsterone, hormon tanpa bau yang keluar melalui keringat pria. Hormon ini diyakini bisa membuat wanita terangsang.

2. Tiram Mentah
Tiram dikenal sebagi makanan laut yang kaya akan zat besi, yang bisa menaikkan jumlah sperma dan produksi testosteron, selain mengandung dopamine, hormon yang diyakini bisa menaikkan gairah seksual. Cobalah menghisap tiram bersama pasangan sebagai bagian dari foreplay seks Anda, saling menyuapi akan membuat permainan seks Anda semakin hangat dan erotis. Cuci bersih bagian luarnya (cangkang) untuk menghilangkan bakteri dan kotoran yang menempel. Buka cangkangnya dan taruh dalam di sebuah wadah berisi es batu, jika Anda suka Anda bisa menambahkan perasan air jeruk lemon.

3. Pisang
Pisang mengandung enzim bromelain, yang dipercaya bisa menaikkan dan memperbaiki libido lelaki. Sebagai buah tropis pisang merupakan sumber potassium dan vitamin B seperti riboflavin, yang bisa meningkatkan energi tubuh. Cara menikmati: taruh pisang yang sudah terkelupas sebagian dalam sebuah wadah. Minta pasangan Anda memakannya pada bagian ujungnya Anda melahapnya di bagian ujung lainnya, just try it.

4. Apukat
Penduduk Aztecs (penduduk asli Nahuati, yang membangun pemerintahan Mexico, sebelum di rebut Cortes pada 1519), menyebut buah apukat sebagi "testicle tree." Apukat mampu menurunkan risiko stroke dan serangan jantung, karena alpukat merupakan satu-satunya buah yang kaya lemak, bahkan kadarnya lebih dari dua kali kandungan lemak dalam durian. Kemampuan ini diperkuat oleh kandungan betakaroten, klorofil, vitamin E, dan vitamin B-kompleks yang berlimpah dalam alpukat.

Tak hanya bagus buat kesehatan tubuh, buah yang menyerupai lekuk tubuh wanita ini juga memiliki esensi yang membantu meningkatkan stamina seks. Kandungan folic acid-nya melancarkan metabolisme protein, dan menaikkan energi tubuh. Penggabungan dua unsur esensial alpukat, vitamin B6 (nutrisi yang membantu menaikkan produksi hormon pria) dan potassium (membantu memperlancar kelenjar thyroid), diyakini bisa meningkatkan libido pria dan wanita.

5. Almond
Almond merupakan sumber esensial asam lemak yang kaya akan senyawa yang sangat vital bagi kesehatan hormon reproduksi pria. Aroma yang dikeluarkan almond membantu membangkitkan hasrat wanita. Menyalakan beberapa lilin aroma terapi beramoma almond bisa membantu membangkitkan gairah seksual Anda dan pasangan. Anda bisa memakan biji almond langsung tanpa menambahkan garam atau pemanis atau mungkin menaburkan cacahan almond kering sebagai pelengkap salad favorit Anda.

6. Mangga, peach, strawberri
Mangga, peach, dan strawberri, buah segar kaya vitamin C yang selalu mengundang liur. Tak ada salahnya melibatkan peranan ketiga buah tersebut dalam foreplay bercinta Anda. Lumurkan jus campuran ketiga buah tersebut keseluruh tubuh Anda dan minta pasangan menjilatinya, bukan hanya saling mengeksplorasi tubuh pasangan namun seks eksotik bakal Anda alami.

7. Telur
Meskipun telur bukan makanan sensual, telur masih merupakan sumber utama vitamin B6 dan B5 yang membantu meningkatkan tingkat keseimbangan hormon dan memerangi stress, dua hal utama yang penting bagi kesehatan libido. Telur juga dikenal sebagai simbol kesuburan dan kelahiran kembali. Telur ayam mentah (baik telur ayam maupun telur burung) sering dikonsumsi untuk menaikkan energi dan memaksimalkan tingkat energi.

8. Hati (liver)
Hati merupkan sumber hewani yang kaya akan glutamine -- jaringan peningkat sistem kekebalan tubuh -- mengkonsumsi hati secara rutin bisa meningkatkan libido yang mulai turun. Pastikan selalu memasukkan hati dalam menu diet harian Anda. Anda bisa mengolah hati dan menggorengnya dengan campuran irisan bawang putih, rempah-rempah dan menggorengnya dengan minyak wijen.

9. Buah Kurma (buah ara)
Buah legit yang sering dijumpai di bulan puasa ini memiliki kandungn asam amino yang dipercaya bisa menaikkan libido dan menaikkan stamina seksual. Bentuk dan aroma manis buah kurma yang masih segar bisa merangsang indra seksual Anda dan pasangan.

10. Bawang Putih
Salah satu rempah dapur ini memang memiliki sejuta khasiat, meskipun cenderung beraroma menyengat. Bawang putih mengandung allicin yang bisa melancarkan peredaran darah ke organ seksual, selain juga meningkatkan libido. Saat ini banyak ekstrak bawang putih yang dikemas dalam bentuk kapsul di pasaran, so Anda dan pasangan tak perlu repot lagi bukan dan coba rasakan khasiatnya.

11. Coklat
Coklat makanan sensual yang banyak mengandung theobromine -- alkaloid -- yang khasiatnya sebanding dengan kafein. Coklat kaya akan phenylethylamine, senyawa kimia yang diyakini bisa menumbuhkan perasaan cinta dan rileks, banyak kalangan selalu mengkonsumsi coklat saat dalam keadaan tertekan. Dark chocolate banyak mengandung anti-oxidants dalam jumlah besar yang sangat berguna bagi sistem kekebalan tubuh. Mengkonsumsi coklat sebelum bercinta bakal membuat seks Anda semakin hangat.

Fakta Tentang Perempuan Yang Harus Diketahui Oleh Cowok

1. Perempuan adalah makhluk yang senang sekali “jajan”. Sebab, dalam anggapan mereka, toko, warung, mall, supermarket, atau pasar adalah tempat di mana mereka seolah merasa terkontrol (padahal buktina mereka sangat “lost control” di tempat itu).

2. Perempuan sangat menyukai segala hal yang bersifat “tawar-menawar”. Jadi, pertanyaan tentang ‘apakah itu dibutuhkan’ tidaklah relevan. Bagi mereka, segala sesuatu yang dijual dan ditawarkan ibarat sebuah permainan yang mengasyikkan dan adil.

December 29, 2009

Where Is God?


Now and again human beings are prompted to ask themselves some of life's truly profound questions. In the quiet darkness of the night, when far off stars twinkle in the vast, majestic sky, or in the cold, hard light of day, when life rushes past like a speeding train, people of all colors, races, and creeds wonder about the meaning of their existence. Why are we here? What does this all mean? Is this all there is?

Prayers: A Special Connection with God


Islam signifies the subjection of all activities in all walks of life to the Law of God Almighty, and leaving nothing to the whims and fancies of anyone else. God has commanded the believers to declare:

[Truly, my prayer, my service of sacrifice, my life, and my death, are (all) for Allah (God), the Cherisher of the Worlds.] (Al-An`am 6:162)

This means that a Muslim is a person who has submitted his or her whole self and whole life to God, so that the first duty of a Muslim is to lead a life of obedience to God alone.

Anger: How to Manage It


Anger is often a corrosive emotion that can drain one's mental and physical health. We often hear the advice that the best way to overcome anger is not to hold it back, but express it freely. But anger doesn't go away just because one unleashes it. On the other hand, it may precipitate disastrous consequences.


Anger has a "feeling aspect" and an "acting aspect". The feeling part of anger can be irritation, frustration, disappointment, and a desire for revenge. The acting part can be a violent outburst or physical assault.

"Anger management" is a modern expression that denotes, not just the control of anger, but the proper channelling of anger along constructive lines as well. That is to say, anger does not always work negatively; it can have a positive aspect as well, if managed properly.

The Power of a Smile


"Well, believe it or not, I owe my being a Muslim today to a simple warm smile", said Stacey, a friend of mine who had just become Muslim a couple of years ago.

Religious Tolerance in Muslim History

Religious intolerance has become too much a part of modern life. It is a fact of life, though, that good people, of whatever faith, do not poke fun or try to insult one another's religion.



On the contrary, we find that real people of faith are keen to get to know each other better and to learn from each other. Goodness, wherever it is to be found, comes from God. Where else would it come from?

Accepting Allah in Our Lives

This is the message of peace, the message of salvation. This is the message of liberation from being enslaved to mundane things that keep shackling souls with worries and sorrows.


This is a call from the One Who controls everything, calling you, humankind, to submit!

Teenagers know no boundaries

When I was growing up if I talked back to my father he would swing back his hand and smack full force across the face. There was just always a line you didn’t cross. As I got older the line blurred slightly but still there is a certain amount of respect you show your parents. Even today I drastically disagree with him but I would never and have never cussed him out to his face. I might have said a few things behind his back while I was in the midst of fury but cussing him out to his face? I just wouldn’t do it. I am curious how teenagers continue to move boundaries where now it almost seems there are none.

I know this might sound shocking but I am made of flesh and blood. I am human. As such I also get angry, get sad, get stressed. I deal with things well and sometimes not the best. It is just our nature. This weekend I happened to be under a lot of stress. I had things going on that were unfortunate and difficult to deal with. Even so, I chose to let my kids participate they best I could in activities that they wanted to. Even though kids don’t always understand what is going on they are perceptive on issues that are occurring.

December 24, 2009

TUHAN, Adil atau tidak; Ada atau tidak;….Emang Urusanmu Apa?

Suatu saat teman saya kirim SMS saat dia sedang menghadapi suatu masalah dan iri akan yang diperoleh orang lain.
Baca SMSnya, aku merenung, dan berkata dalam hati, “Emang yang lebih berkuasa itu siapa? Teman saya ini atau Tuhan sich.” Kok berani mengatakan bahwa Tuhan itu tidak adil. “Berarti masih ada yang lebih adil dari Tuhan”, begitulah kesimpulan yang saya ambil sambil bertanya-tanya siapakah gerangan yang bisa lebih adil dari Tuhan.

Setelah merenung-renung lagi, aku berpikir “yang butuh itu siapa? Tuhan membutuhkan kita ataukah kita yang membutuhkan Tuhan?”. Kalau anda (saya) tidak membutuhkan Tuhan, itu adalah urusan Anda (saya). Lagian kalau kita tidak butuh, ya ngapain kita protes Tuhan adil atau tidak. Mau adil atau tidak, toh kita tidak ada urusan sama Tuhan. Kan begitu logikanya. Tidak ada yang memaksa Anda (saya) untuk mengakui keberadaan Tuhan. Untuk percaya sama Tuhan. Anda (saya) percaya atau tidak, tidak akan mengubah keberadaan Tuhan menjadi ketidakberadaan.

TEACHING MODELS

Teaching models prescribe tested steps and procedures to effectively generate desired outcomes. In general, models can be classified along a continuum from instructor-directed, to student-instructor negotiated, to student-directed .

To help you choose a model, you should know that instructor-directed models are the norm for college campuses, and are criticized for not actively involving students and for often failing to challenge students to think at high levels (e.g., analysis, synthesis, evaluation). Student-directed models require considerably more interest and effort from the students and are criticized for consuming a lot of class time to cover smaller amounts of information at greater depths. A greater chance exists for higher-level thinking via student-directed models, however. Social models provide a common ground between the two extremes.

Computational Linguistics

Ever have difficulty deciding whether material should be classed in 006.35 Natural language processing or in 410.285 Computational linguistics? (It would seem so, since many works have been classed in both numbers.) Since we have also found it difficult to distinguish clearly between the two numbers, we decided to take advantage of a recent major gathering of computational linguists at ACL-08: HLT (ACL = Association of Computational Linguistics; HLT = Human Language Technology) to get their feedback on the treatment of computational linguistics and natural language processing in the DDC.

Language variations around the world

Funny how one simple little question (“Where do comprehensive works on British slang belong?”) caused us such consternation. Our proposed response affects dozens of records. (OK, so the British slang—that is, English slang in the British Isles—solution involves only three records, but then that solution has to be propagated to languages throughout the 400s.)

Kasih Ibu


Suatu malam, seorang wanita berusia 20-an tahun bertengkar dengan ibunya. Karena sangat marah, ia segera meninggalkan rumah tanpa membawa apapun. Saat berjalan ia baru menyadari bahwa ia sama sekali tidak membawa uang.Saat menyusuri sebuah jalan, ia melewati sebuah kedai bakmi dan ia mencium harumnya aroma masakan. Ia ingin sekali memesan semangkuk bakmi, tetapi ia tidak mempunyai uang.

December 23, 2009

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Efek minum air sambil berdiri

Bila kita minum sambil duduk ,air yang kita minum akan disaring oleh sphincter. Sphincter adalah suatu struktur maskuler ( berotot ) yang bisa membuka ( sehingga air kemih dapat lewat ) dan menutup. Setiap air yang kita minum akan disalurkan pada pos-pos penyaringan yang berada di ginjal.

Nah jika kita minum berdiri, air yang kita minum tanpa disaring lagi langsung menuju kantung kemih sehingga terjadi pengendapan disaluran ureter. Limbah-limbah ( pengendapan ) yang menyisa diureter inilah yang bisa menyebabkan penyakit kristal ginjal yang merupakan salah satu penyakit ginjal yang berbahaya. Salah satu gejalanya adalah susah buang air kecil.

Cara mengatasinya :
1. Biasakan minum sambil duduk
2. Perbanyak minum air putih

Silahkan dicoba.

Tambahan :
Dari Anas dan Qatadah, Rasulullah saw bersabda:

Sesungguhnya beliau melarang seseorang minum sambil berdiri, Qotadah
berkata:”Bagaimana dengan makan?” beliau menjawab: “Itu lebih buruk lagi”. (HR.
Muslim dan Turmidzi)

bersabda Nabi dari Abu Hurairah,“Jangan kalian minum sambil berdiri ! Apabila
kalian lupa, maka hendaknya ia muntahkan !” (HR. Muslim)

10 Fakta Tentang Tsunami



Kata 'tsunami' berasal dari bahasa Jepang, dan diterjemahkan sebagai 'gelombang pelabuhan'. Tsunami dulu disebut 'gelombang pasang', tetapi istilah tersebut penggunaannya oleh ilmuwan telah bergeser.

Jadwal Pertandingan Sepakbola Piala Dunia 2010 di Afrika Selatan Putaran Pertama



Jadwal Pertandingan Sepakbola Piala Dunia 2010 di Afrika Selatan Putaran Pertama, Setelah drawing mengundi pembagian grup negara mana saja yg saling berhadapan, Update News Jadwal Lengkap Pertandingan Piala Dunia 2010 Putaran Pertama telah ada. Sedangka Jadwal Siaran langsung Pertandingan Piala Dunia 2010 di Afrika Selatan yg daftarnya ada di bawah ini merupakan jadwal pertandingan untuk grup, yang rencananya siaran langsung Piala Dunia 2010 ini hak siarnya akan diambil oleh RCTI dan Global TV. Jadwal siaran langsung pertandingan Piala Dunia 2010 di bawah ini menggunakan waktu GMT+1, kalau Indonesia menggunakan GMT+7, ditambah 6 jam saja dari waktu siaran di bawah ini.

December 22, 2009

Renungan Hari Ibu 'Pengorbanan Tulus Yang Seringkali Kita Lupakan'



Jalannya sudah tertatih-tatih, karena usianya sudah lebih dari 70 tahun, sehingga kalau tidak perlu sekali, jarang ia bisa dan mau keluar rumah. Walaupun ia mempunyai seorang anak perempuan, ia harus tinggal di rumah jompo, karena kehadirannya tidak diinginkan. Masih teringat olehnya, betapa berat penderitaannya ketika akan melahirkan putrinya tersebut. Ayah dari anak tersebut minggat setelah menghamilinya tanpa mau bertanggung jawab atas perbuatannya. Di samping itu keluarganya menuntut agar ia menggugurkan bayi yang belum dilahirkan, karena keluarganya merasa malu mempunyai seorang putri yang hamil sebelum nikah, tetapi ia tetap mempertahankannya, oleh sebab itu ia diusir dari rumah orang tuanya.
"hari ibu"

Misteri Kapal Hantu The Flying Dutchman


Banyak versi dari cerita ini. Menurut beberapa, cerita ini berasal dari Belanda, sementara itu yang lain meng-claim bahwa itu berasal dari sandiwara Inggris The Flying Dutchman (1826) oleh Edward Fitzball dan novel "The Phantom Ship" (1837) oleh Frederick Marryat, kemudian di adaptasi ke cerita Belanda "Het Vliegend Schip" (The Flying Ship) oleh pastor Belanda A.H.C. Römer. Versi lainnya termasuk opera oleh Richard Wagner (1841) dan "The Flying Dutchman on Tappan Sea" oleh Washington Irving (1855).

Berdasarkan dari beberapa sumber, Kapten Belanda pada abad ke 17 Bernard Fokke adalah contoh dari kapten kapal hantu tersebut. Fokke mendapatkan kemasyhuran atas perjalan dari Belanda ke Jawa dengan kecepatan yang luar biasa dan dicurigai mempunyai ikatan dengan Iblis untuk meningkatkan kecepatannya. Berdasarkan dari beberapa sumber, kapten tersebut dipanggil dengan Falkenburg didalam cerita versi Belanda. Dia dipanggil dengan "Van der Decken" (artinya off the deck|Diatas Geladak) dalam versi Marryat's dan "Ramhout van Dam" dalam versi Irving's. Sumber tidak setuju bahwa "Flying Dutchman" adalah nama dari kapal atau nama panggilan untuk sang kapten.

December 21, 2009

Mitos Seks Para Remaja



Remaja bicara seks? Ini bukan sesuatu yang baru lagi. Tetapi sumber informasi seks yang benar memang masih belum banyak diketahui, atau kalaupun ada, remaja masih kesulitan untuk mengaksesnya. Sehingga yang banyak beredar adalah informasi-informasi yang tidak tepat tentang kesehatan reproduksi dan seksualitas remaja.

Banyak sekali mitos-mitos yang masih dipercaya, yang bisa jadi membawa remaja makin jauh dari jangkauan informasi yang benar tentang seksualitas dan kesehatan reproduksi, termasuk aktivitas seksual yang sudah dijalani oleh sebagian remaja. Bisik-bisik diantara remaja soal lutut yang kopong dan cara jalan yang bisa menggambarkan status keperawanan, sudah sering kita dengar. Semua itu kok bisa ya dipercaya oleh remaja kita?

Berikut ini adalah sebagian mitos-mitos seksualitas yang banyak beredar di sekitar remaja kita hasil dari inventarisasi lembaga KISARA (Kita Sayang Remaja) dan mungkin juga menjadi pendapat kita selama ini:

December 18, 2009

Sebuah Renungan di Tahun Baru 1 Muharram 1431 Hijriah



Alhamdulillah… kusyukuri semua, terimakasihku ya Rabbi atas indahnya hidup ini dan atas nikmat yang tlah engkau berikan kepadaku, ini beberapa bait lagu Ungu yang saya dengar saat menulis ini. Rasa syukur sudah seharusnya selalu kita panjatkan kehadirat Allah SWT, teristimewa hari ini karena hari ini bisa memulai lembaran baru ditahun baru bagi umat Islam sedunia.

"tahun baru 1 muharram 1430 hijriah"

Bumi Akan Terus Berputar

Bumi itu bulat… Bumi terus berputar selama waktu masih berjalan.

Roda kehidupan pun terus berputar mengiringi setiap langkah anak manusia. Kadang kita berada di atas, kadang terpuruk di bawah. Dan bumi akan terus berputar selama waktu masih berjalan.

Yang Kecil Berbuah Besar

Seorang teman menceritakan kisah ini beberapa waktu lalu.

Katanya, suatu ketika seorang pemuda datang ke sebuah perusahaan besar untuk mengikuti sebuah wawancara penerimaan kerja. Dengan kepintarannya, dia mampu melewati wawancara tersebut dengan baik. Namun, setelah melalui rangkaian wawancara yang panjang, ternyata pemuda tersebut tetap tidak diterima di perusahaan tersebut, dengan pertimbangan jurusan kuliahnya tidak sesuai dengan yang diinginkan oleh perusahaan tersebut.

December 17, 2009

Sabar

Dalil adalah pedoman atau pegangan kita dalam kehidupan sehari-hari maupun dalam beribadah. Sebagai umat Islam, tentunya Al Quran dan Sunnah menjadi dalil yang kuat untuk kita. Bila di antara golongan ada yang berselisih pendapat, kewajiban umat Islam untuk mengembalikannya lagi kepada dalil-dalil ini, yaitu Quran dan Hadits. Dalil bukanlah perkataan ulama maupun ustadz, tetapi perintah langsung dari Allah swt.

Doa Adalah Ibadah

Di setiap selesai sholat kita tentunya berdoa, memohon kepada Allah swt. Doa juga bisa kita panjatkan kapan saja dan dimana saja. Kita dapat merasakan kekuatan doa yang kita panjatkan, karena doa itu merupakan sumber kemuliaan sejati yang menghubungkan seorang hamba dengan Rabb-Nya. Dalam sebuah hadits, Nabi Muhammad saw menjelaskan bahwa doa merupakan ibadah. Nabi Muhammad saw bersabda: “Doa itu adalah ibadah” Kemudian beliau membaca: Rabbmu berfirman: “Berdoalah kepada-Ku, niscaya akan Kuperkenankan bagimu. Sesungguhnya orang-orang yang menyombongkan diri dari menyembah-Ku akan masuk neraka Jahannam dalam keadaan hina dina.” (HR. Titrmidzi)

Larangan Berzina

Saat ini kita hidup dalam zaman yang amat sangat terbuka. Bahkan karena terlalu terbukanya pergaulan dalam masyarakat, nilai-nilai agama pun mulai ditinggalkan. Lihat saja sekarang, dengan mudah kita dapat menemukan berbagai kemaksiatan di sekitar kita. Bahkan hal-hal yang menjurus pada perbuatan zina terpampang di sekitar kita.

Anak-anak muda zaman sekarang seakan-akan berlomba dalam hal ini. Begitu banyak gadis-gadis yang mempertontonkan kemolekan tubuhnya secara bebas, hubungan dengan lawan jenis yang melewati batas, dan banyak lagi hal-hal yang membuat perzinahan seakan-akan menjadi sesuatu yang wajar-wajar saja. Ditambah lagi dengan lemahnya iman dan ilmu agama yang dimiliki, membuat perzinahan semakin merajalela.

Rumah Tangga Sakinah Bagi Seorang Wanita

Bagi seorang wanita mukminah, pernikahan adalah salah satu perwujudan Sunnah Nabi shallallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam dan sarana untuk mencapai keridhaan-Nya. Rasulullah shallallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam bersabda: “Nikah adalah sunnahku. Barangsiapa yang tidak mengamalkan sunnahku maka bukanlah termasuk golonganku. Menikahlah, karena aku akan bangga dengan banyaknya jumlah kalian di hadapan umat lain di hari kiamat. Barangsiapa yang telah memiliki modal, hendaklah ia menikah. Dan barangsiapa yang tidak mampu, hendaklah ia berpuasa, karena puasa itu penekan hawa nafsunya” (HR. Ibnu Majah).

Panduan Shalat (Part 3) - DOA SESUDAH SHALAT

Buat teman-teman yang mau shalt, atau dulunya shalat trus berhenti dan sekarang pengen shalat lagi, saking lamanya gan shalat, sampe lupa cara wudhu, bacaan shalat, doa, dsb, ini saya punya sedikit panduan yang mungkin membantu..

DOA SESUDAH SHALAT

Astaghfirullaahal adzhiim alladzi laa ilaaha illa huwal hayyul qayyum wa atubu ilaihi, min jamii’i muslimiina wal muslimaati wal mu’minina wal mu’minati al ahya’I min hum wal amwaat (3x)

Kenapa kita harus "MANDI"???

1. Hukum mandi

Bagi orang yang akan shalat, tidak sah sholatnya jika masih mempunyai hadats besar. Hadats yang disebabkan bersetubuh, keluar mani, haid, nifas dan melahirkan. Hadats besar dapat di hilangkan dengan mandi. Atau mandi wajib, atau mandi hadats besar. Hukm mandi ini adalah wajib.

Panduan Shalat (Part 2) - BACAAN SHALAT

Buat teman-teman yang mau shalt, atau dulunya shalat trus berhenti dan sekarang pengen shalat lagi, saking lamanya gan shalat, sampe lupa cara wudhu, bacaan shalat, doa, dsb, ini saya punya sedikit panduan yang mungkin membantu..

Panduan Shalat (part 1) - WUDHU

Buat teman-teman yang mau shalt, atau dulunya shalat trus berhenti dan sekarang pengen shalat lagi, saking lamanya gan shalat, sampe lupa cara wudhu, bacaan shalat, doa, dsb, ini saya punya sedikit panduan yang mungkin membantu..

Alhamdulilah, pada kesempatan yang baik ini saya bisa menulis kembali beberapa tulisan atau terusan yang mengenai pembahasan tentang sholat. Ini merupakan mujijat buat saya, karena sudah hampir 3 tahun lebih saya tidak melanjutkan tulisan diblog ini. Luar biasa, tentunya waktu 3 tahun merupakan jangka yang cukup panjang. Seperti yang telah saya jelaskan bahwa saya akan melanjutkan tulisan saya ini secara berangsur - angsur. Nah mungkin baru kali ini hati saya terketuk kembali untuk segera melanjutkan tulisan yang sangat bermanfaat untuk saya pribadi maupun untuk para pembaca blog saya yang memang membutuhkan.

December 16, 2009

99 Tanda Orang Yang Berbakat Kaya


Satu hal yg perlu diketahui, seseorang untuk menjadi kayak tak perlu harus jenius. Namum memang diperlukan karakter dan kualitas tertentu untuk menjadi kaya. (from : William Tanuwidjadja: 99 tanda orang berbakat kaya)

nah apa aja nih tanda2 nya, apakah kamu termasuk didalamnya? ini dia :

December 15, 2009

Kenapa Indonesia tidak maju maju

Bertahun-tahun gue heran kenapa sih Indonesia "Kagak maju-2"
meski sudah merdeka 62 tahun. Tapi sekarang gue sudah tahu
alasannya yaitu :

Berdasarkan data statistik :

Susahnya Membahagiakan Wanita

Jika dikatakan cantik dikira menggoda,
Jika dibilang jelek di sangka menghina
Bila dibilang lemah dia protes,
Bila dibilang perkasa dia nangis

Maunya emansipasi, tapi disuruh benerin genteng, nolak
(sambil ngomel masa disamakan dengan cowok)

Maunya emansipasi, tapi disuruh berdiri di bis malah cemberut
(sambil ngomel, egois amat sih cowok ini tidak punya perasaan)

Maunya emansipasi, sono narik becak
(sambil ngomel, baikan gw jualan pecal dah)



Maunya emansipasi, disuruh angkat beras, muka masam
(sambil ngomel, cowo apa ne.. dah tau beban gw berat (2 mountains) masi disuruh angkat beginian)

Jika di tanyakan siapa yang paling di banggakan, kebanyakan bilang Ibunya,
tapi kenapa ya... lebih bangga jadi wanita karir,
padahal ibunya adalah ibu rumah tangga

Bila kesalahannya diingatkankan, mukanya merah...
Bila di ajari mukanya merah,
Bila di sanjung mukanya merah,
Jika marah mukanya merah,
Kok sama semua? bingung !!

Di tanya ya atau tidak, jawabnya : diam
Ditanya tidak atau ya, jawabnya : diam
Ditanya ya atau ya, jawabnya : diam
Ditanya tidak atau tidak, jawabnya : diam
Ketika didiamkan malah marah (repot kita disuruh jadi dukun yang bisa nebak jawabannya)

Di bilang ceriwis marah,
Dibilang berisik ngambek,
Dibilang banyak mulut tersinggung,
Tapi kalau dibilang Supel wadow seneng banget... padahal sama saja maksudnya

Dibilang gemuk engga senang padahal maksud kita sehat gitu lho,
Dibilang kurus malah senang padahal maksud kita "kenapa elo jadi begini !!!!"

Itulah WANITA, makin kita bingung makin senang dia...

December 14, 2009

30 Hal yang membuat Cewek Tersenyum

1. Don't hug her friends or your friends that are girls cause she'll feel left out.
Jangan memeluk temannya atau temanmu dimana hal itu bisa membuatnya merasa ditinggalkan.

2. Hold her hand at any moment . . . even if it's just for a second.
Pegang tangannya pada setiap kesempatan... meskipun hanya sedetik saja.

3. Hug her from behind.
Peluk dia dari belakang.

4. Leave her voice messages to wake up.
Tinggalkan pesan suara untuk dia untuk membangunkan dia dari tidurnya.

5. Wrestle with her.
Bergulat dengan dia.

6. Don't go hang out with your ex when shes not with you, you might not realize how badly it hurts her.
Jangan pergi jalan-jalan dengan mantanmu jika dia sedang tidak bersama kamu, kamu mungkin tidak mengetahui betapa menyakitkannya hal itu bagi dia.

7. If you're talking to another girl, when you're done talking, walk over and hug her and kiss her.... let her know she's yours and they aren't.
Jika kamu sedang berbicara dengan seorang Cewe, setelah kamu selesai berbicara, berjalanlah dan peluklah dia serta ciumlah dia... Tunjukkan pada dia bahwa dia milikmu dan mereka bukan apa-apa.

8. Write her notes or call her just to say "hi"..and not just at night after you've already been out with other girls.
Tuliskan dia sebuah catatan atau telepon dia hanya untuk sekedar menyapanya... dan tidak hanya pada saat malam hari setelah kamu bepergian dengan Cewe-Cewe lain.

9. Introduce her to your friends . . . as your girlfriend.
Perkenalkan dia pada teman-temanmu... sebagai kekasihmu.

10. Play with her hair.
Bermain dengan rambutnya.
11. Pick her up
Gendong dia.

12. Get upset if another guy touches her and she doesn't like it.
Merasa kesal apabila ada Cowo lain memegang-megang dia dan dia tidak menyukainya.

13. Make her laugh, if you can make her laugh, you can make her do anything.
Buat dia tertawa, jika kamu bisa membuat dia tertawa. kamu bisa membuat dia melakukan apa saja.

14. Let her fall asleep in your arms.
Biarkan dia tertidur lelap di dalam pelukanmu.

15. If she's mad at you, kiss her.
Jika dia marah padamu, cium dia.

16. If you care about her, then tell her.
Jika kamu perhatian pada dia, katakan.

17. Every guy should give their girl 3 things: a stuffed animal(she'll hug it every time she goes to sleep), jewelry (she'll treasure it forever), and one of his t-shirts (she'll most likely wear it to bed).
Setiap Cowo harus memberikan Cewe mereka 3 benda: boneka binatang (dia akan membawanya dan memeluknya setiap kali dia akan tidur), perhiasan (dia akan menyimpannya dengan baik-baik untuk selamanya), dan baju yang dimiliki sang Cowo (dia akan memakainya ketika tidur).

18. Treat her the same around your friends as you do when you're alone.
Perlakukanlah dia sebagaimana biasanya, meskipun sedang berkumpul dengan teman-teman.

19. Look her in the eyes and smile.
Tataplah kedua matanya dan tersenyumlah pada dia.
20. Hang out with her on weekends.

Pergi jalan-jalan dengan dia tiap akhir pekan.
21. Kiss her in the rain.
Cium dia di bawah guyuran hujan.

22. If your listening to music, let her listen too.
Jika kamu sedang mendengarkan musik, biarkan dia ikut mendengarnya bersama kamu.

23. Remember her birthday and get her something, even if it's simple and inexpensive, it came from YOU. it means all the world to HER. it's the thought that counts.
Ingat hari ulang tahunnya dan belikan dia sesuatu, meskipun itu sederhana dan tidak mahal, itu adalah pemberian dari KAMU. Itu berarti segalanya bagi DIA.

24. When she gives you a present on your birthday, or just whenever, take it and tell her you love it, even if you don't (it'll make her happy.)
Ketika dia memberikan hadiah pada hari ulang tahunmu, atau pada saat-saat tertentu, ambillah dan katakan pada dia bahwa kamu menyukainya, meskipun sebenarnya tidak (hal itu akan membuatnya senang).

25. Girl don't necessarily have to have hour-long conversations every night, but it's nice for them to hear your voice even for a quick hello.
Cewe tidak butuh pembicaraan lewat telepon yang panjang dan berjam-jam tiap malam, yang terpenting adalah bisa mendengar suara kamu meskipun hanya sekedar sapaan atau 'halo?'.

26. Give her what she wants
Berikan dia apa yang dia mau.

27. Recognize the small things . . . they usually mean the most.
Hargai setiap hal kecil... itu biasanya berarti besar.

28. Tell her she's beautiful, she needs to know her striving is working.
Katakan pada dia bahwa dia cantik atau menarik, dia perlu tahu bahwa dandanannya tidak sia-sia.

29. Hang out with her whenever you are free and u should be free to hang with your girlfriend all the time
Pergi jalan-jalan bersama dia setiap kali kamu nganggur dan kamu harus siap mengajak kekasihmu jalan-jalan kapan saja.

30. If u care about her...SHOW it!
Jika kamu perhatian pada dia... TUNJUKKAN!

WHY SHOULD MARIJUANA BE LEGALIZED??

1. Marijuana improves appetite.

2. Marijuana prevents AIDS patients from weight loss.

3. Marijuana helps glaucoma patients lessen eye pressure.

4. Marijuana reduces nausea caused by radiation and chemotherapeutic treatments.

5. Marijuana is an effective painkiller, it helps these patients improve their condition.

6. People should be free to decide whether they like marijuana as a recreational drug or not.

Capital Punishment

Capital punishment, the death penalty or execution, is the killing of a person by judicial process for retribution and incapacitation. Crimes that can result in a death penalty are known as capital crimes or capital offences. The term capital originates from Latin capitalis, literally "regarding the head" (Latin caput). Hence, a capital crime was originally one punished by the severing of the head.
Capital punishment has been practiced in virtually every society, excluding those with state religious proscriptions against it. It is a matter of active controversy in various states, and positions can vary within a single political ideology or cultural region. A major exception is in Europe, where Article 2 of the Charter of Fundamental Rights of the European Union prohibits the practice.[1]
Today, most countries are considered by Amnesty International as abolitionists,[2] which allowed a vote on a resolution to the UN to promote the abolition of the death penalty.[3] But more than 60% of the worldwide population live in countries where executions take place in so far as the four most populous countries in the world (such as People's Republic of China, India, United States and Indonesia) apply the death penalty.
Religious views
Main article: Religion and capital punishment

Buddhism
There is disagreement among Buddhists as to whether or not Buddhism forbids the death penalty. The first of the Five Precepts (Panca-sila) is to abstain from destruction of life. Chapter 10 of the Dhammapada states:
Everyone fears punishment; everyone fears death, just as you do. Therefore do not kill or cause to kill. Everyone fears punishment; everyone loves life, as you do. Therefore do not kill or cause to kill.
Chapter 26, the final chapter of the Dhammapada, states, "Him I call a brahmin who has put aside weapons and renounced violence toward all creatures. He neither kills nor helps others to kill." These sentences are interpreted by many Buddhists (especially in the West) as an injunction against supporting any legal measure which might lead to the death penalty. However, as is often the case with the interpretation of scripture, there is dispute on this matter. Historically, most states where the official religion is Buddhism have imposed capital punishment for some offenses. One notable exception is the abolition of the death penalty by the Emperor Saga of Japan in 818. This lasted until 1165, although in private manors executions continued to be conducted as a form of retaliation. Japan still imposes the death penalty, although some recent justice ministers have refused to sign death warrants, citing their Buddhist beliefs as their reason.[63] Other Buddhist-majority states vary in their policy. For example, Bhutan has abolished the death penalty, but Thailand still retains it, although Buddhism is the official religion in both.

Judaism
The official teachings of Judaism approve the death penalty in principle but the standard of proof required for application of death penalty is extremely stringent, and in practice, it has been abolished by various Talmudic decisions, making the situations in which a death sentence could be passed effectively impossible and hypothetical. "Forty years before the destruction" of the Temple in Jerusalem in 70 AD, i.e. in 30 AD, the Sanhedrin effectively abolished capital punishment, making it a hypothetical upper limit on the severity of punishment, fitting in finality for God alone to use, not fallible people.[64]
In law schools everywhere, students read the famous quotation from the 12th century legal scholar, Maimonides,
"It is better and more satisfactory to acquit a thousand guilty persons than to put a single innocent one to death."
Maimonides argued that executing a defendant on anything less than absolute certainty would lead to a slippery slope of decreasing burdens of proof, until we would be convicting merely "according to the judge's caprice." Maimonides was concerned about the need for the law to guard itself in public perceptions, to preserve its majesty and retain the people's respect.[65]

Islam
Scholars of Islam hold it to be permissible but the victim or the family of the victim has the right to pardon. In Islamic jurisprudence (Fiqh), to forbid what is not forbidden is forbidden. Consequently, it is impossible to make a case for abolition of the death penalty, which is explicitly endorsed.
Sharia Law or Islamic law may require capital punishment, there is great variation within Islamic nations as to actual capital punishment. Apostasy in Islam and stoning to death in Islam are controversial topics. Furthermore, as expressed in the Qur'an, capital punishment is condoned. Although the Qur'an prescribes the death penalty for several hadd (fixed) crimes—including rape—murder is not among them. Instead, murder is treated as a civil crime and is covered by the law of qisas (retaliation), whereby the relatives of the victim decide whether the offender is punished with death by the authorities or made to pay diyah (wergild) as compensation.[66]
"If anyone kills person - unless it be for murder or for spreading mischief in the land - it would be as if he killed all people. And if anyone saves a life, it would be as if he saved the life of all people" (Qur'an 5:32). "Spreading mischief in the land" can mean many different things, but is generally interpreted to mean those crimes that affect the community as a whole, and destabilize the society. Crimes that have fallen under this description have included: (1) Treason, when one helps an enemy of the Muslim community; (2) Apostasy, when one leaves the faith; (3) Land, sea, or air piracy; (4) Rape; (5) Adultery; (6) Homosexual behaviour.[67]

Christianity
Although some interpret that Jesus' teachings condemn the death penalty in The Gospel of Luke and The Gospel of Matthew regarding Turning the other cheek, and John 8:7 of the Bible, others consider Romans 13:3-4 to support it. Also, Leviticus 20:2-27 has a whole list of situations in which execution is supported. Christian positions on this vary.[68] The sixth commandment (fifth in the Roman Catholic and Lutheran churches) is preached as 'Thou shalt not kill' by some denominations and as 'Thou shalt not murder' by others. As some denominations do not have a hard-line stance on the subject, Christians of such denominations are free to make a personal decision.[69]

Roman Catholic Church
The Roman Catholic Church traditionally accepted capital punishment as per the theology of Thomas Aquinas (who accepted the death penalty as a necessary deterrent and prevention method, but not as a means of vengeance; see also Aquinas on the death penalty). Under the pontificate of Pope John Paul II, this position was refined. As stated in John Paul II's encyclical Evangelium Vitae, the Roman Catholic Church holds that capital punishment should be avoided unless it is the only way to defend society from the offender in question, and that with today's penal system such a situation requiring an execution is either rare or non-existent.[70] The Catechism of the Catholic Church states:
Assuming that the guilty party's identity and responsibility have been fully determined, the traditional teaching of the Church does not exclude recourse to the death penalty, if this is the only possible way of effectively defending human lives against the unjust aggressor. If, however, nonlethal means are sufficient to defend and protect people's safety from the aggressor, authority will limit itself to such means, as these are more in keeping with the concrete conditions of the common good and are more in conformity to the dignity of the human person. Today, in fact, as a consequence of the possibilities which the state has for effectively preventing crime, by rendering one who has committed an offense incapable of doing harm - without definitely taking away from him the possibility of redeeming himself - the cases in which the execution of the offender is an absolute necessity are very rare, if not practically nonexistent.[71]

Anglican and Episcopalian
The Lambeth Conference of Anglican and Episcopalian bishops condemned the death penalty in 1988:
This Conference: ... 3. Urges the Church to speak out against: ... (b) all governments who practice capital punishment, and encourages them to find alternative ways of sentencing offenders so that the divine dignity of every human being is respected and yet justice is pursued;....[72]

United Methodist Church
The United Methodist Church, along with other Methodist churches, also condemns capital punishment, saying that it cannot accept retribution or social vengeance as a reason for taking human life.[73] The Church also holds that the death penalty falls unfairly and unequally upon marginalized persons including the poor, the uneducated, ethnic and religious minorities, and persons with mental and emotional illnesses.[74] The General Conference of the United Methodist Church calls for its bishops to uphold opposition to capital punishment and for governments to enact an immediate moratorium on carrying out the death penalty sentence.
The Evangelical Lutheran Church in America
In a 1991 social policy statement, the ELCA officially took a stand to oppose the death penalty. It states that revenge is a primary motivation for capital punishment policy and that true healing can only take place through repentance and forgiveness.[75]
The Southern Baptist Convention
In 2000 the Southern Baptist Convention updated Baptist Faith and Message. In it the convention officially sanctioned the use of capital punishment by the State. It said that it is the duty of the state to execute those guilty of murder and that God established capital punishment in the Noahic Covenant.

Other Protestants
Several key leaders early in the Protestant Reformation, including Martin Luther and John Calvin, followed the traditional reasoning in favour of capital punishment, and the Lutheran Church's Augsburg Confession explicitly defended it. Some Protestant groups have cited Genesis 9:5–6, Romans 13:3–4, and Leviticus 20:1–27 as the basis for permitting the death penalty.[76]
Mennonites, Church of the Brethren and Friends have opposed the death penalty since their founding, and continue to be strongly opposed to it today. These groups, along with other Christians opposed to capital punishment, have cited Christ's Sermon on the Mount (transcribed in Matthew Chapter 5–7) and Sermon on the Plain (transcribed in Luke 6:17–49). In both sermons, Christ tells his followers to turn the other cheek and to love their enemies, which these groups believe mandates nonviolence, including opposition to the death penalty.
Decapitation (from Latin, caput, capitis, meaning head), or beheading, is the cutting off of the head of a person or animal. Beheading typically refers to the act of intentional decapitation, e.g., as a means of murder or execution; it may be accomplished, for example, with an axe, sword, knife, wire, or by means of a guillotine. An executioner carrying out decapitations is called a headsman.
Accidental decapitation can be the result of an explosion, automobile or industrial accident, improperly-administered execution by hanging or other violent injury. Suicide by decapitation is rare, but not unknown. [1]
The word decapitation can also refer, on occasion, to the removal of the head from a body that is already dead. This might be done to take the head as a trophy, for public display, to make the deceased more difficult to identify, for cryonics or for other reasons.
In an analogous fashion, decapitation can also refer to the removal of a head of an organization. If, for example, the leader of a country were killed, that might be referred to as 'decapitation'. It is also used of a political strategy aimed at unseating high-profile members of a party, as used by the Liberal Democrats in the United Kingdom general election, 2005.[2]
Decapitation is fatal, as brain death occurs within seconds to minutes without the support of the organism's body.
Execution by electrocution (usually referred to, after its method of implementation, as the electric chair) is an execution method originating in the United States in which the person being put to death is strapped to a specially built wooden chair and electrocuted through electrodes placed on the body. This execution method has been used only in the United States and, for a period of several decades,[1] in the Philippines (its first use there in 1924, last in 1976). The electric chair has become a symbol of the death penalty; however, its use is in decline.

Hanging is the lethal suspension of a person by a ligature. The Oxford English Dictionary states that hanging in this sense is "specifically to put to death by suspension by the neck", although it formerly also referred to crucifixion and death by impalement in which the body would remain "hanging".
The preferred past tense and past participle in English is hanged, not "hung".[1] The term "hung" in judicial parlance is more used in reference to a "hung jury", a form of mistrial.
For lack of a better term, hanging has also been used to describe a method of suicide in which a person applies a ligature to the neck and brings about unconsciousness and then death, by means of partial suspension or partial weight-bearing on the ligature. This method has been most often used in prisons or other institutions, where full suspension support is difficult to devise. The earliest known use of the word in this sense was in A.D. 1300.[2]
Lethal injection refers to the practice of injecting a person with a fatal dose of drugs for the express purpose of killing the subject. The main application for this procedure is capital punishment, but the term may also be applied in a broad sense to euthanasia, and suicide.

Execution by firing squad is a method of capital punishment, particularly common in times of war. The firing squad is generally composed of several soldiers or peace officers. The method of execution requires all members of the group to fire simultaneously, thus preventing both disruption of the process by a single member and identification of the member who fired the lethal shot. The condemned is typically blindfolded or hooded, as well as restrained - though in some cases, condemned prisoners have asked to be allowed to face the firing squad with their eyes open. Executions can be carried out with the condemned either standing or sitting.
Execution by firing squad is distinct from other forms of execution by firearms, such as a single shot from a handgun to the back of the neck. However, the single shot (coup de grâce) is sometimes incorporated in a firing squad execution, particularly if the initial volley turns out not to be immediately fatal.
The method is also the supreme punishment or disciplinary means employed by courts martial for crimes such as cowardice, desertion or mutiny. One such execution was that of Private Eddie Slovik by the U.S. Army in 1945. Slovik was the only U.S. soldier executed for desertion since the American Civil War. It has also been applied for violent crimes carried out by soldiers, such as murder or rape. Also notably, Jean-Marie Bastien-Thiry was executed by firing squad for his participation in the assassination attempt on French President Charles de Gaulle.
Firing squads have also been used for political crimes. Romanian Communist leader Nicolae Ceauşescu (December 25, 1989) is an example of this.
There is a tradition in some jurisdictions that such executions are carried out at first light, or (more dramatically) at sunrise, which is usually up to half an hour later. This gave rise to the phrase 'shot at dawn', which has become particularly associated with the campaign (see below) to achieve a pardon for British servicemen shot for apparent cowardice in World War I.
A gas chamber is an apparatus for killing, consisting of a sealed chamber into which a poisonous or asphyxiant gas is introduced. The most commonly used poisonous agent is hydrogen cyanide; carbon dioxide and carbon monoxide have also been used. Gas chambers were used as a method of execution for condemned prisoners in the United States beginning in the 1920s. During the Holocaust, large-scale gas chambers designed for mass killing were used by Nazi Germany as part of their genocide program.[1] The use of gas chambers has also been reported in North Korea.[2]
Gas chambers have also been used for animal euthanasia, using carbon monoxide as the lethal agent. Sometimes a box filled with anaesthetic gas is used to anaesthetize small animals for surgery or euthanasia.
Execution by shooting is a form of capital punishment whereby an executed person is shot by one or more firearms. It is the most common method of execution worldwide, used in about 70 countries,[1] with execution by firing squad being one particular form. In most countries, execution by a firing squad has historically been considered a more honorable death and was used primarily for military personnel, though in some countries, single-executioner shooting is still in use.


Some Arguments for Capital Punishment
• Some argue that the death of a criminal gives closure to their victim's (if they are stiil alive) and their families.
• The death penalty serves as a deterrent to criminals who may be considering committing a capital offence.
• One of the main principals of punishment and the judicial system is that the penalty fits the crime. If someone violently murders another individual or numerous people, then it makes sense for the punishment to be death.
• Some anti-death penalty campaigners describe examples of people on death row, or people have already been killed have then been proved innocent. Today, the accuracy of modern forensics and DNA testing makes it very unlikely for an innocent person to be put on death row. Furthering this point, it is argued that the number of innocent people that may be killed is equalised by the number of actual criminals that are set free.
• Putting people in prison, as opposed to executing them gives them a chance of parole (or the small chance of escape), meaning they can commit more crimes. Capital punishment means there is no chance of the criminal committing another crime.
Some Arguments Against the Death Penalty
• The financial cost of putting people to death, once you consider extra appeals, additional procedures etc, can often be more than the cost of putting a criminal in prison for life.
• The death penalty violates the "cruel and unusual" clause of the Bill of Rights.
• It is simply immoral and barbaric to allow people to be killed by the state even if they have committed violent crimes.
• The appeals and additional procedures required to deal with criminals that have been condemned to death fill up the US legal system which could be put to better use.
• It can be viewed that, life in prison with little freedom and poor quality of life is a better punishment and deterrent to criminals than death row.
• There is always the possibility that innocent men and women are put to death without ever having committed a crime. There will always be failings in the judicial and conviction system.

THE 4 WIVES

There was a rich merchant who had 4 wives. He loved the 4th wife the most and adorned her with rich robes and treated her to delicacies. He took great care of her and gave her nothing but the best.
He also loved the 3rd wife very much. He's very proud of her and always wanted to show off her to his friends. However, the merchant is always in great fear that she might run away with some other men.
He too, loved his 2nd wife. She is a very considerate person, always patient and in fact is the merchant's confidante. Whenever the merchant faced some problems, he always turned to his 2nd wife and she would always help him out and tide him through difficult times.
Now, the merchant's 1st wife is a very loyal partner and has made great contributions in maintaining his wealth and business as well as taking care of the household. However, the merchant did not love the first wife and although she loved him deeply, he hardly took notice of her.
One day, the merchant fell ill. Before long, he knew that he was going to die soon. He thought of his luxurious life and told himself, "Now I have 4 wives with me. But when I die, I'll be alone. How lonely I'll be!"
Thus, he asked the 4th wife, "I loved you most, endowed you with the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?" "No way!" replied the 4th wife and she walked away without another word.
The answer cut like a sharp knife right into the merchant's heart. The sad merchant then asked the 3rd wife, "I have loved you so much for all my life. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?" "No!" replied the 3rd wife. "Life is so good over here! I'm going to remarry when you die!" The merchant's heart sank and turned cold.
He then asked the 2nd wife, "I always turned to you for help and you've always helped me out. Now I need your help again. When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?" "I'm sorry, I can't help you out this time!" replied the 2nd wife. "At the very most, I can only send you to your grave." The answer came like a bolt of thunder and the merchant was devastated.
Then a voice called out : "I'll leave with you. I'll follow you no matter where you go." The merchant looked up and there was his first wife. She was so skinny, almost like she suffered from malnutrition. Greatly grieved, the merchant said, "I should have taken much better care of you while I could have !"
Actually, we all have 4 wives in our lives
a. The 4th wife is our body. No matter how much time and effort we lavish in making it look good, it'll leave us when we die.
b. Our 3rd wife ? Our possessions, status and wealth. When we die, they all go to others.
c. The 2nd wife is our family and friends. No matter how close they had been there for us when we're alive, the furthest they can stay by us is up to the grave.
d. The 1st wife is in fact our soul, often neglected in our pursuit of material, wealth and sensual pleasure.
Guess what? It is actually the only thing that follows us wherever we go. Perhaps it's a good idea to cultivate and strengthen it now rather than to wait until we're on our deathbed to lament

A SMILE BEHIND THE ICE

Andre was 16 years old. He look like a freak, had no friends, and did not interesting to socialize – I guessed. Actually, he was cute, has a good shape, a little bit shorter than me. My family and I just moved in to this town last month, and we lived just few blocks from his house. Mr. Livingstone, Andre’s father had passed away when Andre was 4 years old. Everyone said that he was not a good boy but for me he was an interesting boy. Even tough he was living in poverty, I could feel that he had had something which not all people had, he was such a helpful person. I had seen him shared his seat to an old lady on the bus. I also had accidentally seen he picked out a poor kitten from a deep, dirty, and stinky drain. He even gave some money to a little girl who cried because her lollipop fell down to the ground and asked her to buy a new one. There was a big question inside of my head; why people hated him?
It was a sunny Monday morning. I woke up early to prepare my self for my first day in high school. I wanted everything as perfect as possible, my backpack, my uniform, my shoes, and also my new bicycle. I rode my bicycle to my school, the only high school in our town. How great this building, I thought I was the first student coming to the school today. Front once, which was my favorite desk. From this desk I could hear the teacher well, had no chance to sleep or cheating with friends or saw anyone else. So, I could study with full concentration. Suddenly, Andre was across in my mind. Did he register to high school? Could his mother pay the school fee? I didn’t know why I thought about him, I couldn’t stop to thought about him.
A minute later, I realized that I shouldn’t worry about him. He even might do not know who I am. However, I couldn’t deny that I cared about him. The teacher entered the class, he looked around and I saw fast motion of his mouth as he counted the students. Then hiss forehead wrinkled, he was look like searching one student more. I hoped that one was Andre. In the last minute, a student knocked the door from outside and asked the teacher whether he may come in or not. “I hope that is you, Andre...” I whispered. He came in and apologized to the teacher, how he was a polite person. When he was turning and looking for an empty desk, I was surprised. He was Andre! I was very happy, I wanted to shouting but I knew that I may not. I did not know why did I feel today was perfect.
It was the third month in high school. I have been waiting for a moment to talk with him. Bertha said that I was insane because I wanted to get closer with someone who everyone else avoided. That day, I started the conversation with a silly thing. I asked him to help me in math, meanwhile entire the class knew that Andre always got D in math. He become mad and spoke loudly to me, he even screamed. How stupid I was. We did not talk almost a week after that, I even had had no bravery to saw at him. Until one day, he said sorry that he had too rude at me. I wanted to smile and told him that was okay, but a devil on my left whispered “He has to pay for your sorry, sweetie. He was hurting you…” On other side, an angel whispered “No girl, don’t do that. Just ask him to be your friend…” At last, I jut asked him to ride me home after school for a month and he agreed. In first week, he just rode my bicycle without said anything. In the next week, he said “Your bicycle is nice, I enjoy riding it…” That was the sentence that made me sure that he was my friend.
Andre was a nice guy. He taught me many things about life. He looks different when he was with me. He wasn’t a silent person like what I had watched so far, he was talkative. He enjoyed talking with me, he even talk and shared with me without I asked. Step by step I was getting know him more. Then I knew why people hated him. People suspected him as a cold blood murder. He was an alcoholic and used to consume drugs. One day, his friends and he were in a party. They were drunk and lose control. One of his friend, Peter, over doses and died, his parent blamed Andre for his death. Soon that issue spread out to entire the town, as the result people also blamed him. I didn’t believe that until he invited me to come with him to Peter’s grave. I was dizzy, I couldn’t believe that a nice person such Andre had a past as dark as he told me.
As he told me, we agreed not to talk about his past anymore. I confused, did he told me the truth? If he did, did I chose a wrong guy as a friend? No, I didn’t! I knew he was a good man, I had seen the proofs. Our life went on. More I spent days with Andre, more I realized that he was a good person, no, he was a great person. He was being so strong to kept move on thought he was alone. I was glad to be his friend, where was Andre, there was me. Yea, we had had a lot of time to meet. We were classmate, we were neighboring, and we were best friend! I didn’t care about his past, and he didn’t care about my angry face when he got D on math (for hundreds time). No friendship as beautiful as we built, I bet for that.
After few months, I felt something changed. Andre tried to stay away from me without any explanation. He didn’t want to talk with me anymore. Every time I started a conversation, he always avoided. I asked, he answered. He spoke loudly and rude, just like the first time I asked him about math. He preferred to go home on foot than riding bicycle with me. I was confused, sad, and disappointed. What was wrong him? Andre just told me that he wanted to be alone for a moment.
Mr. Nicholas, our math lecturer, gave back our answer sheet in last exam. With this letter B, I could ask new shoes to my dad. Most of students look sad and disappointed. In the backward, I saw Andre folded an airplane from using his paper and flew it away trough the window. I dared to bit that he got D again; I saw that letter through his eyes. When the class was over, I drew near his desk. I asked him if he want a sandwich. He just glanced at me for a while then left me without say anything. I didn’t know how many times he didn’t ask about my mark. Andre changed, he lost his spirit. He just drew graffiti on his book during the class, didn’t what to say when the teacher asked him a question, and he didn’t attend his final term for football team selection.
On the way home, I offered him to ride my bicycle. I guessed that he would refuse me, and he did. I rode my bicycle accompanying him walking. He kept walking and silent. I started to talk, but that was my first big mistake. I asked him about his paper. He stopped walking and he said that he knows that I love math, and he asked me to leave him alone because he is not good in math. I thought it was the moment I became hate math too. His emotion was burst. Then he told me that he would tell me what happened to him if I promise not to get close anymore with him. It was my second big mistake, I agreed his offer. He said that people were getting hate me for being his friend. He didn’t want me to be hated because he exactly knew how hard to live alone, and he didn’t want me experience it too. He pushed me down from my bicycle and run away. I didn’t know what to say, I’m frozen on the ground beside my pinky bicycle. That was my third mistake; I was letting him go while he was down. Oh God, he cares about his friend. That was another proof that he was a good person.
It was silly not to talk with classmate, a man who went home to the same direction with me, and our home parted few blocks only. Three months elapsed. There was big news in school: a student dropped out for a big case. Was he Andre? If that student was him, what did he do? I hoped that wasn’t him. In the class, I asked Martha who was that poor student. She said that he was Andre, school security found him in the back yard while he drunk last night. I couldn’t believe that. He had promised to me that he would never touch those things anymore. I met him at his house in the afternoon. He opened the door and took me to the sitting room. We did not say any words for few minutes until I asked him why. He told me that he just needed them, he just wanted to escape. Then I made a conclusion; he did that because of me. I was dizzy suddenly. I asked him to go back to school or move to another school, any school. I forced him to continue his study and show me that he could be the best. He gave me no responds. He opened the door and asked me to go out. In the last minute he said “You were the first person who I smile to in last 3 years, but now I need to leave you, I have to. I’ll move to Green Town next week. I promise that you’ll see that smile again…”
I was so sad and confused. Would he continue his school? Would he fall too deep and never move out again? Would he back to his past? How about his story that he would change? Did he lie? If we meet again someday, would he remember me? I couldn’t stop to think about him but life must go on.
5 years later…
It was my fifth semester in the college. I enjoyed my life here. I stayed far from my parent. I cooked my foods by my own, I washed my clothes by my self, I did everything alone. Even tough college and stayed alone were make me busy, I made some friends in college. I wasn’t a popular student but I loved to socialize and I joined some organizations. I hoped that could help me not to think about my past, about a friendship. I didn’t know it was a beautiful memory or a bad memory, it was complicated.
College never seen in silent event tough it was holiday. I have no plans for vacation this holiday, so I took some addition class. I sat in the main building alley, I was watching for the new students in a light yellow uniform. I remembered about my first day in college. I was look like a girl who gets lost in a wide desert. I even didn’t know where I could get some soft drinks and food. Some senior students were too hard on the new students. I hated that but nothing that I could do to stop it, that was a common. I read a book in my arms, a book of Kahlil Gibran. I thought that could stop me bleed for them but I couldn’t. Then I went out and sat in the park. I saw the same scene, so I turned back and sat behind the tree. How it was so comfort sitting there.
Suddenly, a man with uniform touched my back as he called my name. He smiled to me as he asked me if I had some drinks for him. I frowned and tried to recognize him. He looks familiar to me but I couldn’t remember who he was. “Do you still remember that a boy promise you a smile? Sorry I’m 2 years late to follow you here...” Andre! A senior shouted to call him back to his group before I repay his smile. Something sparkled in my heart and made my face reddish. I asked my friend what time would those new students over today. They would be here until 6 P.M. I looked my watch, it was 11 A.M. I decided to wait him, we would go home together again like we used to.
I felt that I was back to my past again. My best friend, Andre, was back. I asked him how he was in last 4 years. He told me that he got work after he finished high school and saved his money for college. I wonder how could he found a job and save his money with his high school diploma. Then he told me that he went for some jobs to earn more money. Andre was changed in appearance, many changes. He looks tidier. He dressed well, he had his hair cut, and no more piercing, rocker bracelets or ring. He became more adult and wiser. I swore that I would never let him go again. I would never let him alone anymore. I would never do the same mistakes again. I promised for Andre, for me, and for us.
Andre had told me that he love his mother much. She never lets Andre alone. She could wipe Andre’s tear. She was always there for Andre. Andre had had promised that he would make his mother happy ever after. I knew that Andre could make it true because he had a strong willing. He proved me that everybody changes. I was right about one thing; Andre was a nice person and a good friend. People were wrong to judge him because his past. I knew one day people will confess him, esteem him, and respect him.

Early Marriage is not A Good Choice.

Bringing up a family is not a simple thing which could decide in one night. People should prepare everything before getting married. Not only financial, physic, adulthood and knowledge also required for getting married. Some people said getting married in 24 to 26 years old is a good choice, because in these ages people have completed every requirement to be a spouse. People in these ages have a good full-time job, more responsible, wiser, and good in managing financial. However, there are also some people getting married in 16 to 18 years old. In fact, those early married couples are living unhappy, because early marriage has given them many problems. Early marriage is not a best choice for any reasons because it is harmful.

Early marriage is a common in some countries or tribes. People get married when they still 16, 17, or 18 years old. Most of early married couples claim avoids adultery and sins as their reason, some of them said that they were ready to get married because they have a job and thought that they are ready to fulfill their needs by themselves. Culture also one of persuasive reason about early marriage. Adolescents are used to follow what their parent has done before. It is a common in their society to get married early – including their parent, therefore they also get married early. Another reason is parents who surrendered to financial condition decide to arrange a marriage for their children in order to decrease family expenditures. Are those reasons strong enough to get married early? In fact, early marriage snatches their teen-age and changes it with responsibilities of bringing a family up.

Bad emotional link, lack of sense of responsibility, unstable financial condition, and situation of physical which not yet ready might possibly generate new problems after getting married. Many people do not consider about those things. Even if they do, that is not seriously. Hard willingness and pictures about better future have defeated their consideration about disadvantages of early marriage. So that, teenagers and parents are need to know the disadvantages of early marriage to avoid any risks of it.

Adolescents are not yet adult enough to live together as a family, they are easy to be bored, used to be free, and curious. As we know, teenagers are interested to find new things and experiences to avoid sense of bore about daily common activities and habits. They like to joy themselves more than anything else, they even forget their responsibility easily for having fun. This case most happen to the men, they will push their spouse aside and gives more attention to the new things which they have just found. Home is not a comfort place anymore; they will spend much more time outside. As the result, they will be passed over their spouse and do not fulfill their family necessity. The worst possibility is, they will looking for another woman and divorce their spouse. Of course it is very hard to their spouse to go on their life as widow, more than anything else have owned child.

When a couple feel bore each other, their communication will getting worst sooner. This condition will bring them to be selfish; they put their own necessity as first priority, unwilling to start a conversation, and keep doing their bad habits without consider the effects. For example, a young man who used to smoke will not lessen his habit to fulfill necessities of his family if his wife does not ask him with correct words and which he can accept. A wife who used to spend a lot of money for shopping will keep her common if her husband can not talk to her and suggest her to manage financial wiser. It is not easy for teenager to build a good communication, because basically they are selfish, hard to sharing, and thought themselves are the main priority.

In a family, people will face of many problems. Patience is the key from of figure out problems and it is one of most adolescents do not have yet. They are impatience in face of problem, simple problems and also big problems. They easy to be hopeless when, more than anything else their spouse does not help much. When their patience used up, they will be angry easily and moreover looking for someone to be blamed. No one else will be suspected to make them angry and assumed to make mistakes except their own spouse. Unfortunately, that actions do not giving any good result and the problems are still unsolved. Moreover, there will be other problems when both of them getting angry, blaming each other, do not want to give in one another. Two impatience people can not live together, because they can be angry easily, and waste much time to argue each other.

When we talk about a family, we will continue to talk about living together, having babies, and sharing affection. People in 16 to 18 years old might possibly to share affection as husband and wife, but physically they – women – are not ready yet for having a baby. In biological science, is it is true mentioned that women who have experienced of menstruation are ready to pregnant and bear a baby, but it is still very risky to adolescent for that. Many cases found about defect babies who was born from mothers who are still very young. Those cases are because of teens’ womb is not formed perfectly yet, it can not give a good nutrition for the baby. Being pregnant in a very young ages provide high risks. A very young mother also gristle of miscarriage, many babies of teens’ die when borne, even the mother is possibly to be die too. In short, it is not a good idea to let a very young girl to get married, get pregnant, and bare a baby because it is very, very risky.

Even they bared a baby and passed all the risks, there still others possibility that perhaps worse for their baby and themselves. A young mother have no experiences about bring a baby up yet. The baby can be uncared because she does not know yet how to look after a baby well. Their habits before married also influence the baby growth. She not used to wakes up at midnight to change her baby’s wet pants, she do not know how to bathing the baby correctly and the baby might be dislocated or sprained. She perhaps gets panic when her baby is fever and keeps crying, then she can not thinking clearly and at last she do nothing for the baby. Not only that, the baby can be lack of nutrition and growth unstable. The young mother does not know well about her baby need for nutrition, she has no idea about immunization or Children Health Center. As the result, the baby can not grow better.

The most important thing that people should consider is financial. Nowadays, things and goods are very expensive. Meanwhile they need to earn money for food, household equipments, health facilities, clothes, entertainment, etc. Get married mean ready to live and manage your own life with your partner (husband or wife). Early married couple average ages are 16 to 18, which mean they did not finish their high school or at least they are educated until high school only. With high school diploma only, it will be very hard for them to find a good job with good wages. Therefore, they can not earn enough money to fulfill their necessities. In conclusion, they will live with misery, failed to fulfill necessity, and unhappy.

Adolescent also have problem about managing financial. Basically, teens are interested to spend much more money for fun than for other necessity. Most of them hard to decide which things are important and which are not. They are not used to make a list of expenditures, because they are used to get money from their parent and they can ask for more if they run out of money. When they earn they own money (not much of course) that should be enough for a month, they can use them up in two weeks. As the result, they will be in trouble during the rest two weeks. Base on sense of pity, their parent come and give them a hand by assisting their finance. Of course it is not effective to teach tem to be wiser, instead they be accustomed with that aid and lazy to work.

Living in a new family, people also consider about a better future. There are many ways to arrange a brighter future; saving money, invest money to enterprise or company, or start an own business. However, saving money is the most common way that people do to prepare their future. For early married couple with poor salary and unable to manage expenditure, save any money for their future is almost impossible. Meanwhile, their salary is only enough for their daily need. They will have children and that will need money, they need to save their money for their children’s education, health, and also to enlarge their house or to expand their business. If they can not save any money, that mean their life will not much better than today, they can not make any changes. Instead, their life might be worse in the next few years. It is impossible for them to save their money as long as they just make a little money, unable to manage money well, and their expenditure is much more than their income.

Finally, we can conclude that early marriage generate more disadvantages than advantages. It makes teens face many problems in their life, snatches their happy life, and bring them into a hard life. Early marriage also gives nothing to adolescent in their future. It will better for us to consider the bad effects before decide get marry earlier. However, early marriage is not a good choice for teenagers.

CHANGING YOUR HABITS IS EFFECTIVE TO IMPROVE YOUR MOTIVATION FOR ENGLISH

All non English speaking students in all over the world learn how to speak English well. The problem is; most of them do not know what their motivations exactly are. As the result, they get lost and gain their goal slowly, and even worst they got nothing. There are varieties causes of these problems. The less qualified teachers, lack of books and study materials, less supported environment, less self-confidence, and unsupported friends are probably cause this problem. However, students’ selves confidences is the most influential thing that need to be increased. The rest of this essay will describe you some good habits as suggested strategies which effective to improve motivation for English.
First, imagine you can talk to native speakers just as you talk in Indonesian. You know that all people around you, especially your schoolmates, wanted to have good English. Therefore, I expect you to talk to them in English like the way you talk in your first language. You also need to believe in your ability and realize that you have already well in English. You have already learnt English since you were in Elementary School that means you have already known English. All that you need to do is pushing your self to use it as often as possible. More you use English, more your skills improve. Besides increase yours, using English more often also helps to improve your schoolmate English too. In short, you should try to speak in English as often as possible.

The next strategy that you should do is talk to people about English. This is a very simple method, but it is very effective. Here is how it works: You usually talk about things that interest you. The opposite is true, too. If you start talking about a boring subject, you will begin to get interested in it. Imagine you are studying a subject that you hate. You are bored and tired, but you have to pass the test tomorrow. If there are people near you, you have two options: you can tell everybody how much you are suffering or you can tell those people about the things you have learned. If you choose the first option, you will only feel worse. If you choose the second option, and start a conversation on the "boring" subject, you will begin to look at it in a very different way. Suddenly it will become a subject worth talking about — therefore, an interesting subject. As the result, you will begin to like it and learn about it faster and faster.
The third one is try to find friends who also have hard willing to learn English. If you can find a friend who is learning English and is on a similar level of skill, you will be in an excellent situation: you will have someone to talk about English with. These conversations will increase your interest in English. Learning English will be easier, because you will be able to discuss your problems with your friend. You will study English more, because you will want to be better than your friend is. You should meet your friend regularly. Ideally, he/she should live near you, or go to the same school as you. If you absolutely cannot find anybody willing to learn English with you, you can try to find somebody by e-mail. This is a worse solution: your conversations will probably be less frequent, and it is difficult to compete with someone who you do not know well. However, making more friends can help you much to increase your willing to learn English.
Next, you need to spend some money for English. If you spend your money on something, you will want to use it. For example, if you buy an expensive football shoes, you will probably go out and play football every day. This rule is also true for learning English. If you want to increase your desire to learn English, buy a new dictionary, an interesting English-language book, English-language magazines, English-language novels, etc. The idea is simple: You paid for it, so you will want to use it, and you will improve your English. There is a problem with this method. It only works for a short time. You usually lose your desire to learn English after a few days. To keep learning, you would have to buy something every week. However, this method is helpful, because it gives you an impulse to start learning. For example, if you buy a dictionary of phrasal verbs, you will probably learn some words from it. Then you should try to use them. For example, write an e-mail message with these words. This will increase your motivation, and you will learn more.
The last important thing is you have to remember that learning English requires action. We have heard this many times. One small action is more powerful than reading hundreds of articles. We know it is very hard to do things, even if they are good for us. We humans are lazy creatures. That is why not many people speak English well. Still, we hope you can do the things above in your English learning method — not only read about them. You will be successful only if you change something about your life.

Improving Students’ English Ability through Loneliness

Some students have problems to develop their English ability because of less supported environment. They can not focus to the goal in crowded, much noisy, and too many ideas from others. For example, a student can not focus to his / her speaking practice while his / her friends are turning the music loudly. There are some options to solve those problems, one of them is loneliness. Practicing by own self may help us to improve their English ability. The purpose is to concentrate. In other words, students also need to be alone to get more concentration in order to improve their English abilities, such as reading skill, writing skill, listening skill, and, speaking skill.

No body wants to study in such inconvenience place and situation, there are many disadvantages of its. When they write some thing in English, for example, it will be hard for them to manage our ideas because there are also many ideas that should be considered from others. As the result, they might be stuck wasting their time to consider that ideas. Some time they need to be confident and believe in their own decision. They can learn how to make a good decision through loneliness.



Even if they can practice in crowded, it will not work to improve their skills. It is not easy to get concentration in crowded. People’s voices or any attractive events are possible to divert their attention. They may lose their concentration, can not practice well and they will get nothing. They need to take their self to a quiet place and situation; getting alone. When they practice their English skills by their self, they will get more concentration. Concentration is the key to be success to improve English ability. They do not have to be alone all day long, but an hour each day is enough for them. Practice orderly in a supported situation (loneliness) can help them gain their skills.

If they concentrate, the next advantage that they can get from loneliness is a clear mind. They are able to think clearly in a good concentration. The purpose is to make ideas appear faster and brighter, so that they can improve their ability. More concentration can they gain more ideas can they get. For example, ideas can appear when they think clearly and focus to their goal when they try to write something in English. Not in writing only, this theory also works in reading, speaking, and listening, because those things are related each other.






Some students are difficult to speak in front the public or class, they usually refuse when the teacher ask them to speak in English in front the class. It is because of they are ashamed and do not believe in their ability. They are worry about making mistakes because they never know their speech ability. To solve this problem, students should have practiced by their own selves. Practice to speaking by their own self can increase their self confidence, so that they will not be ashamed to speak in front the public or class. The aim of practice speaking alone is to make students common to speak in English.

Loneliness also gives us a chance to look back to our mistakes before. We can take a deep breath and try to remind whole things that make us slower in developing our English ability. After we make a list of those disturbing things, we should arrange a fully organized schedule to avoid them. When we accomplished our goal to avoid mistakes and figured out our problems, we can study, practice, and improve our skills soon.

All students want to have better English ability, they keep trying to solve their problems while studying and practicing. Loneliness is one of helpful methods, it can help student to get more concentration, think clearly, be more confidence, and introspect their mistake. It is very useful in order to improve English skills such as writing, reading, listening, and speaking ability. In other words, students also need to study and practice by their own selves to develop their English skills.

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